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Dear Amicus Agony,

I am in love and I do not know what to do. I am very smitten towards this girl who works in another law firm. We met at a CPD event and it was love at first sight. We have great chemistry and a very strong connection. I believe that she may be the one. Unfortunately, my law firm and her law firm have some “Bad Blood’ because they have been involved in acrimonious litigation in this one matter. We have been seeing each other in secret as we believe that our firms will not approve of our union. What should we do?

Sincerely,

Legal (R + J) <3

Dear Legal (R + J) <3,

There is no reason to fear or hide. I understand that it is difficult for lawyers to meet someone given their busy schedules, and it seems that you truly are very much in love with this woman. Just go and be with her. There is nothing more important than happiness. I feel confident that the people at your firm will understand once they appreciate the depth of your love. This might also be an opportunity for the two firms to bury the hatchet. Always remember the wise words of The Eagles – Love Will Keep Us Alive. Also worst case scenario, you might get conflicted out of some cases, which is never a bad thing.

Sincerely,

Amicus Agony


Dear Amicus Agony,

I am a trainee and I feel completely lost. It has been about two weeks and I have no idea what is happening. The terms that are being used seem foreign to me and I feel like law school has not prepared me for this. On my first day, my boss asked me to draft a holding letter and it was the first time I heard about such a letter. I am finding the pace and scope of work to be intimidating. I feel like giving up. What should I do?

Sincerely,

Lost soul swimming in a fish bowl

Dear Lost soul swimming in a fish bowl,

Take a step back and just breathe. I assure you all of us have been in your position before. Do not overthink things and remember that you are not alone. The time you spend as a trainee will, unfortunately, be emotionally and physically draining. The important thing to remember is that you must not be scared of failure and making mistakes because they are inevitable. I understand that this is easier said than done but you must just believe in yourself and back yourself in everything that you do. If you are not sure about something, ask someone for help. The worst case scenario is that you may get scolded but that is still better than hiding the problem until it explodes and is beyond everyone’s control. Also at the end of the day, remember that this is just a job and there are bigger things in life than that.

Sincerely,

Amicus Agony


Young lawyers, the solutions to your problems are now just an e-mail away! If you are having difficulties coping with the pressures of practice, need career advice or would like some perspective on personal matters in the workplace, the Young Lawyers Committee’s Amicus Agony is here for you. E-mail your problems to mcir@lawsoc.org.sg.
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Sharmaine Lau
Director
Publications Department
Email: sharmaine@lawsoc.org.sg

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